Do you remember the days where you could just play around with your friends in the backyard? Do you remember the times where your only problem is which flavor of candy to buy? Do you remember the times where you could just wake up and everything is prepared for you like your breakfast, uniform, and lunch money?
I really miss those times. I am at a phase right now where I am really struggling with my future. One of the things I needed to figure out soon is finding a place to live. I need to find an apartment as soon as possible since I just graduated from my MBA. I couldn’t live in the dorm anymore so I have to find a new place. With that being said, I find it so hard to find an apartment that would suit your preferences. Sometimes the place they are offering would require you to share the bathroom with strangers. Sometimes when you have your own private bathroom, the rent is just too expensive. When you wanted to find a cheaper place, sometimes it could be really dirty. So, you know how I feel. This is just one of the things I am currently worrying about.
I know I am not the only one experiencing these types of situation but for those of you who I am currently in the same boat with, I know it could really be hard! Thus I would like to share some of my ways on how to cope and find solutions for this kind of situations.
But whenever I am worried about these dilemmas, I would always be reminded to take a step back and do something I genuinely enjoy like go outside and take a long walk, or do photography or even do retail therapy. These things could really help you destress. You will need it whenever the situation becomes too overwhelming.
I am the type of person who becomes really motivated to solve a problem instantly. Like when a situation comes up, I would always immediately find solutions because I don’t want to overthink a certain problem for too long. It would make me just feel depressed in the end. So my advice is to always look for solutions and face your problems head on. The truth is, if you keep on overthinking certain situations, it would only make you feel tired emotionally from thinking a lot and that’s not a healthy way to live life. But if you’re not this type of person, I think it would be best for you to tell your friends or family about it then try and find solutions after.
I also realized that in every decision, there is always an opportunity cost. You have to give up something in order for you to gain the thing you wanted. Sometimes there really is no such thing as a win-win situation. You have to give up something.
I am also reminded that in the end, everything will be okay. Eventually, everything will work out. You just have to trust your instincts and trust in the Lord. You have to lift it all up to His hands and He will take care of it.
“Cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for you.” – 1 Peter 5:7
These were just some of the learnings I have learned by living the expat life. This lifestyle could be really hard at times, but you what they say,
“Wilderness is a place of testing and growth.” – Dr. Stacey Tay
Hope you all have a lovely weekend!